Andrew and I aren't Christian. We were raised that way, and we definitely believe in the good qualities that Christianity promotes, but that's not the same as really being Christian. We don't attend church, and we aren't people who believe in going once a year (or twice if you go at Easter). Both of us (strongly) feel that if you believe something is true at Christmas you should practice it all year long. No halfway commitments or doing it just when it's fun and easy.
Before Scout, we half-halfheartedly decorated for Christmas. We gave presents to our friends and family because we care about them and giving is fun. I could usually convince Andrew to drive around and look at lights once or twice. We got a tree a few times. Last year, we didn't do anything on our own for Christmas. We celebrated with our families, but I was way too sick and we were both too busy that it just seemed like extra work.
We talked about how once Scout was here, we wouldn't celebrate Christmas. Well, we would celebrate with our families, but then we would do something different with our own little family. Celebrate Winter Solstice or the start of the New Year or something like that. Because what are you celebrating at Christmas if you aren't Christian? We see too many people get caught up in all of the buying and wanting and spending ridiculous amounts of money and we definitely don't want that. We had a plan.
Plan fail. On my part. I realized that it made me sad to think of not celebrating with Scout. Not having a sparkly tree in our house for a month. Not having cheery lights on the darkest days of the year. Not listening to Christmas songs (who can be cranky with those on?). Not having special Christmas books and movies that you only watch once a year, but you do it ever year, so you get excited for them. Not making tons of goodies and homemade gifts. Not taking that time to think about the people that you love and what you could get them that would make them happy (although we still do that !). Not having something cheery and happy and all about giving during the dreariest time of the year.
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And that, people, is why you have seen no posts about Christmas. Because we (or maybe just I) haven't quite come to terms with where we are on this issue. We know we don't feel comfortable with treating Christmas as a Christian holiday, but really, that's what it is. And without that, I don't want it to evolve into a massive spending/wanting/greedy/corporate thing...because that is just the opposite of everything that is good and worthwhile about Christmas. Sigh. I've got a few posts planned, but not many.
I do know that I want to buy lights after Christmas so that next year, when it gets dark so early and stays dark so late, there are bright twinkly lights on my house.